Guide to Surviving SDCC with Kids, for Someone Who Has Just Returned

San Diego Comic Con logoLast year I went to Comic-Con (henceforth referred to as SDCC) with a group, but I was always doing my own thing “for work”, and I responsible for nothing but taking a ton of notes. This year I was responsible for the lives of three children, which is why now all my hair is completely white and I stare into the void with haunted eyes. Did I have fun?  Yes, absolutely – but I didn’t really realize that until we were all home on Sunday night and I counted children. Not only do I have the same number of kids I left with, but I even have the same kids. So hey – parenting win!

If you take kids to SDCC, here’s some things to keep in mind:

There is child care.

Not free, alas, but very reasonably priced. My team was a little old for it – they are tweens so not old enough to roam unprotected but too old to want to go to child care. However, a friend of mine used it last year for his younger kids and they adored it and begged to stay.

There are some events specifically for kids.

Most of these are on Sunday, when one room is devoted to different craft and art projects all day. There’s also a Children’s Film Festival.

By and large, SDCC is aimed at adults.

This means that if you go to a panel, expect some off-color remarks and some profanity. If you walk down the street, you will hear cussing from people on the street (not at you, just a cloud of general cussing). Some outfits are skimpy and some involve fake gore. As a parent who is very lenient about language in the sense that I curse non-stop in front of my darling daughter (sorry, honey) I didn’t find anything objectionable – but it’s not like going to Disneyland where the priority is making kids happy. With a few exceptions, the SDCC crowd is grown-ups having grown-up fun. They are happy to have you and your family present, but they might not tone things down for your benefit.

Have back-up plans in case of separation.

Here are some pictures of SDCC crowds:

Here's a crowd of people waiting to get on the trolley, with a crowd in the background trying to cross the street. The staff who did crosswalk duty were incredible - assertive but also polite and with a sense of humor. Thanks, guys!

Here’s a crowd of people waiting to get on the trolley, with a crowd in the background trying to cross the street. The staff who did crosswalk duty were incredible – assertive but also polite and with a sense of humor. Thanks, guys!

This is a terrible photo, but I hope it shows you how packed the trolley gets. No one falls down because we are so closely packed in together.

This is a terrible photo, but I hope it shows you how packed the trolley gets. No one falls down because we are so closely packed in together.

People trying to get on the escalator to the lobby and Exhibit Hall.

People trying to get on the escalator to the lobby and Exhibit Hall.

SERIOUSLY. That’s a lot of people and a lot of chances to get separated. Luckily, the vast majority of people at SDCC are lovely. So teach your children ahead of time that if anyone makes them afraid or uncomfortable, or they get lost, they should not hesitate to get help from a vendor or staff or, if being harassed, just yell, “THIS PERSON IS BOTHERING ME!” and multiple people will come to their aid. Also have meeting places. We had different ones depending on where we were. Separated on trolley?  Get off at next stop and wait. In Exhibit Hall? Go to the Girl Genius Booth, because we love Girl Genius and they know us well. Figure out what will work for you and make a plan. Again, out of 100 nerd, 99 are awesome. They just want to share what they love with you and make you happy. Statistically speaking, out of 100 people, one is probably going to be a jerk, so don’t be shy about enlisting the help of the nice 99 if you have any problems with that one guy.

Make physical comfort a priority over doing stuff.

Hungry? Eat. Bring snacks and be prepared to also spend a lot of money no food. Tired? Rest. Thirsty? There is water at the back of every panel room. In a full day of walking around you might only cross one thing off your list. That’s OK. Enjoy the cosplay and drink your water!

Enjoy the moment.

I was so stressed out I almost forgot to enjoy where I was – but we had a great (and safe) time! The kids learned to make steampunk bracelets, they met stormtroopers, they saw a giant minecraft display, they attended a hilarious panel at which people argued about which are the best starships, and they played their very fist Dungeons and Dragons game. And now I’m going to sleep for a week. I can’t believe I’m saying this – but I can’t wait to take them again next year!

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San Diego Comic Con or Bust!

Wow, this is actually a thing! A thing that is happening! In just 2 days I will be at San Diego Comic Con and for those who have followed me since last year, no, I will not camp overnight to try to get into Hall H again. That experience was a blast (Domino’s delivers pizza to the line!) but once was enough!

Last year I was really focused on panels, and they were wonderful. This year I have my daughter with me so I’m doing less standing in line and more looking at stuff, maybe getting some autographs, and basically just hanging out with my kid! I know it will be torture not to be going to all those panels but honestly it will also be a nice change of pace.

The one event I’m REALLY excited about is an off-site Clone Club party for fans of Orphan Black. My sestra Heather is attending with me this year and we’ll be cosplaying as Alison dressed as Alison and Cosima dressed as Alison. We are very excited about the party!

Will be back with plenty of pics! Sestra Heather, when not playing Alison, is going as one of the Vulvani from Mad Max: Fury Road, I have my Steampunk Jane Austen ensemble, and I also have an outfit that’s not so much “cosplay” as it “I put on all my Doctor Who apparel at once” outfit (villains dress, scarf pin, cute hat). Yet another trip in which I am likely to remember things like fascinators and fans and forget things like socks and underwear.

See you soon!

When Magic and Myth Meet Main Street – Notes from San Diego Comic-Con

San Diego Comic Con logoOne of my favorite panels at San Diego Comic-Con this year was the panel, “When Myth and Magic Meet Main Street”.

This panel featured Jim Butcher (Dresden Files), Seanan McGuire (October Daye series, InCrytpid series), Richard Kadrey (Sandman Slim series), Amber Benson (Death’s Daughter series), Greg van Eekhout (California Bones) and Anton Strout (Incarnate).

I owe a lavish apology to Greg and Anton.  I was sitting so far in the back of the room that I couldn’t see their end of the table, so when they talked not only could I not hear very well but I also couldn’t see which one of them was talking.  Although I don’t quote them much here, please take it from me that they are intelligent, well-spoken people with thoughtful and funny things to say.  This year was quite the learning experience in terms of how to cover and event like San Diego Comic-Con and I hope to be better prepared next year.

Here’s some highlights:

  • Jim Butcher was asked why he sets his books in Chicago.  His answer:  “Because my writing teacher wouldn’t let me set them in Missouri”.
  • Seanan McGuire said this about her decision to write urban fantasy:  “Fairy Tales are the urban fantasy of their time.  I moved my fairy tales from dark forests to dark alleys”.
  • Seanan, who reports having put herself through college by writing Harlequin romances, said that she dislikes writing sex scenes.  Accordingly, one of her favorite scenes to write was the one in Discount Armegeddon in which Verity must get the mice who worship her to give her and her lover privacy by brining them with friend chicken.
  • Amber Benson, on the other hand, rather enjoys writing sex scenes.  She said that she only blushes because she likes to write in public (places like Starbucks).
  • Jim Butcher said, “Sometimes there are places in the world that need to be destroyed, and I might as well do it in as spectacular a fashion as possible.  I shall eviscerate them in fiction!”
  • Richard Kadrey’s advice to writers was “Write!  Carry a notebook, write stuff down, and finish what you start”.  I wrote those words immediately in the notebook I was carrying around and I still feel smug about it.
  • Seanan and Amber both cautioned against comparing you output to that of other authors.  Their advice was “Write, read, write, and don’t measure yourself against other people”.

This was the first panel that I covered (or attempted to cover and I learned a lot about writing and a lot about what to do and not to do in order to cover a panel!  The big thing I took away from this was the message to write and write and read and then write some more.  What a fun, inspiring group of people!

It’s Convention Season – Who’s With Me?

Logo of SDCCIt’s convention season, and I’m all over the place!  If any of you are attending conventions in California, watch for me here:

Nebula Awards Weekend

San Jose, CA

May 16 – 18

 

 

BayCon

Santa Clara, CA

May 23 – 26

San Diego Comic Con

San Diego, CA

July 24 – 27

I’m be wearing the Geek Girl In Love Book Cape:

Dress up cape with book covers attached

The Geek Girl In Love Cape. Not recommend for use in flight or in combat.

Or my Jane Austen Steampunk costume:

This costume has been considerably altered since I first wore it thanks to my  mom , who not only sews but also owns a hot glue gun!

This costume has been considerably altered since it’s maiden voyage pictured here, thanks to my mom , who not only sews but also owns a hot glue gun!

 

It would be great to meet some followers of Geek Girl In Love, so say hi if you are at any of these inventions!  To get us all in the mood, here’s a fun video about cosplay.  This video gives me a happy, goofy grin!  Gotta start gluing gears on things, people!