Between the Lines Book Club: The Ghost Bride Discussion Questions

between the lines book club logoOur next book club meeting is on October 26th from 10:30 – 12 at Arden Dimick Library. We are reading The Ghost Bride by Yangsze Choo. Comment in person or on the blog!

Here are the discussion questions from the publisher. I may add more before we meet, but please keep these questions in mind as you read. I also encourage you to form connections between this book and others we’ve read!

1. Perplexed by her father’s absences and worried by finances and marriage negotiations, Li Lan wonders, “What was happening out in the world of men?…Despite the fact that my feet were not bound, I was confined to domestic quarters as though a rope tethered my ankle to our front door.” How does Li Lan chafe against notions of femininity, and in what ways does she rebel?

2. Malacca is a city settled by various ethnic groups over the centuries, with a long colonial history as well. The Chinese in Malaya, like Li Lan’s family, keep their own practices and dress, but don’t follow tradition as rigidly as in China. How does Li Lan benefit from this blending of tradition?

3. After Li Lan gives in to Amah’s superstition and visits a medium at the temple, she observes a Chinese cemetery that has been neglected due to fear of ghosts: “How different it was from the quiet Malay cemeteries, whose pawn-shaped Islamic tombstones are shaded by the frangipani tree, which the Malays call the graveyard flower. Amah would never let me pluck the fragrant, creamy blossoms when I was a child. It seemed to me that in this confluence of cultures, we had acquired one another’s superstitions without necessarily any of their comforts.” What do you think the comforts of superstition are? As Li Lan interacts with the spirit world, does her perspective on superstition change?

4. Why is Li Lan drawn to Tian Bai when they meet? How do her feelings for him change over the course of the novel, and why?

5. The ghost world Li Lan enters is a richly imagined place governed by complicated bureaucracy. How does the parallel city reflect the world of the living, and in what ways is it different?

6. When Li Lan thinks that she has found her mother — “a second wife in the ancestral Lim household” — she is shaken by how horrible she is. How does meeting her real mother, Auntie Three, help Li Lan understand her own family?

7. When Li Lan is a wandering spirit, able to observe from another perspective, what does she realize about herself and her world? Are there positive aspects to her time spent outside her body?

8. Li Lan thinks, “All who have seen ghosts and spirits are marked with a stain, and far more than Old Wong, I have trespassed where no living person ought have.” How has Li Lan’s time spent in the realm of the ghost world — “speaking with the dead, eating spirit offerings, seeing Er Lang’s true identity — changed her? Is it possible for her to go back to normal life?

9. When Er Lang proposes to Li Lan, he warns her, “I wouldn’t underestimate the importance of family.” Were you surprised by Li Lan’s decision at the end of the novel? If you were in her shoes, do you think you would have chosen the same route, with its sacrifices?

10. Did you know anything about traditional Chinese folklore before reading THE GHOST BRIDE? What did you find fascinating or strange about the mythology woven throughout the novel, and the Chinese notions of the afterlife?

Mini Review: The Five, by Hallie Rubenhold

Need some nonfiction for Halloween? Here you go. cover of The Five
TW for discussion of violence against women.

In 1888, an unknown killer dubbed “Jack the Ripper” killed at least five women. Since then, multitudes of books and movies have been made about the killer, but none have been written about his victims. The Five: The Untold Lives of the Women Killed by Jack the Ripper seeks to redress this by telling the stories of “the canonical five.” These five women are the ones considered most likely to have been the victims of a single killer in 1888: Mary Ann Nichols, Annie Chapman, Elizabeth Stride, Catherine Eddowes, and Mary Jane Kelly.


Because these women lived in a neighborhood known for crime, and because they were killed while outside at night (with the exception of Mary Jane Kelly, who was killed in her bedroom), the public assumed that they were prostitutes. The author challenges the assumption that all of the women were prostitutes and explores why this assumption was made at the time as well as why it continues today. She also challenges the assumption that prostitutes are unworthy of safety and dignity. By exploring the lives of these five women, she humanizes them and in the process illustrates the choices faced by women in the working and unemployed classes. It’s a sad, but fascinating, book.


Between the Lines Book Club: The Ghost Bride by Yangsze Choo

Our next book club meeting is on October 26th from 10:30 – 12 at Arden Dimick Library. We are reading The Ghost Bride by Yangsze Choo. Comment in person or on the blog!

From the publisher:

Though ruled by British overlords, the Chinese of colonial Malaya still cling to ancient customs. And in the sleepy port town of Malacca, ghosts and superstitions abound.

Li Lan, the daughter of a genteel but bankrupt family, has few prospects. But fate intervenes when she receives an unusual proposal from the wealthy and powerful Lim family. They want her to become a ghost bride for the family’s only son, who recently died under mysterious circumstances. Rarely practiced, a traditional ghost marriage is used to placate a restless spirit. Such a union would guarantee Li Lan a home for the rest of her days, but at a terrible price.

After an ominous visit to the opulent Lim mansion, Li Lan finds herself haunted not only by her ghostly would-be suitor, but also by her desire for the Lim’s handsome new heir, Tian Bai. Night after night, she is drawn into the shadowy parallel world of the Chinese afterlife, with its ghost cities, paper funeral offerings, vengeful spirits and monstrous bureaucracy—including the mysterious Er Lang, a charming but unpredictable guardian spirit. Li Lan must uncover the Lim family’s darkest secrets—and the truth about her own family—before she is trapped in this ghostly world forever.

In addition to Book Club in a Box copies, there are some copies in the library catalog and through Link+. For large print, reserve through Link+ and for audio reserve through Hoopla. Our wonderful librarians can help you if you haven’t used Link+ or Hoopla before. See you soon!





Mary Ansell, from “Dogs and Men”

250px-PorthosIn my research into the life of author J.M. Barrie, I came across this quote from his wife, Mary Ansell. One of her dogs, Porthos, is pictured at left. Pretty sure some of us can relate:

I have never really been happy with people. Some constraint tightens me up when I am with them. They seem so inside themselves, so unwilling to reveal their real selves. I am always asking for something they won’t give me; I try to pierce into their reserves; sometimes I feel I am succeeding, but they close in again and I am left outside.

But with animals it is different. An animal is so helplessly itself. I become one with them. I, too, become helplessly myself. They never withhold themselves from me as men withheld themselves. When the dogs loved me, they did it without forethought or afterthought, because they couldn’t help it. But men didn’t love me unless they wanted to; unless I fitted in with their idea of me. The dogs didn’t have an idea of me. They just loved me – me – me – me – with passion and warmth, without thinking about it.

I only loved clever men. And clever men, it seems to me, are made up of reserves. It is out of their reserves that they bring their clever things.

You think they will one day open their reserves, and that you will be the favored one who is admitted to the cupboards where they keep their cleverness. But that is an illusion. The reserves of men are as helpless as a dog’s lack of reserve is helpless. A man had to be clever, really clever, to please me. And I loved my dogs so passionately because they could never, never be clever in that way. They could never be as complicated as the men were complicated.


Happy Equinox

blood moon


Here’s a poem from T.E. Hulme, who lived from 1883 – 1917. Thanks to


A touch of cold in the Autumn night

I walked abroad,

And saw the ruddy moon lean over a hedge

Like a red-faced farmer.

I did not stop to speak, but nodded;

And round about were the wistful stars

With white faces like town children.


Between the Lines Book Club: Controversial Memoirs

between the lines book club logoThis month our book club pick is Bend Not Break, by Ping Fu. When it was first released, Bend Not Break received considerable critical acclaim and was popular with the public as well. However, Chinese readers noted several inconsistencies in the author’s timeline, and questioned a particular scene in which Fu claims to have witnessed an execution of a teacher. In response, Fu explained many discrepancies but admitted that the execution probably never happened. We will be discussing this book at Arden Dimick Library  on Sept 28, 2019 at 10:30AM.

Bend Not Break joins a long list of memoirs that are either completely or partially fictionalized. One of the most famous is A Million Little Pieces, by James Frey. Like Bend Not Break, this was marketed as a memoir and heavily publicized by Oprah Winfrey. Unlike Bend Not Break, which mostly alters logistical details,  A Million Little Pieces turned out to be almost completely fictionalized. Less famously, people who knew Madeline L’Engle, including her children and other family members, claim that her memoirs are almost complete fiction, especially her portrait of a happy marriage that never existed in Two Part Invention.

Some books market themselves as “fictionalized memoir.” While marketed as fiction, the Little House books fit into this category. Although the events come from author Laura Ingalls Wilder’s life, she picked and choose events and altered some events and characters so as to create a compelling story that wouldn’t be too dark. In A Heartbreaking Work of Staggering Genius, author David Egger includes fantasy sequences and points out sections to the reader that are fictionalized or otherwise different from reality.

Ping Fu claimed to write “the emotional truth.” Madeline L’Engle claimed that “there is no such thing as nonfiction.” Is it possible to write a truly truthful memoir? And at what point do deviations from fact make the entire piece untrustworthy? We will explore these questions on Sept 28 and below in the comments!




Revisiting Tarot For Yourself, by Mary K. Greer

cover of Tarot for Your Self
Tarot for Your Self
, by Mary K. Greer, is one of the first books about tarot that I picked up. It’s out in a 25th anniversary edition and I highly recommend it in any edition. Its suggestions can be interpreted equally well from a more spiritual/mystical/intuitive lens or a more psychological lens, and the book has practical tools to help you use the cards for yourself and for others.

I looked back through my old workbook today and realized that photocopied pages from this book form the majority of my notes in my mini-book-of-shadows ( a 3 by 5 size cobbled-together book of notes that I carry around with me). That’s because the pages are so clear and so concise and yet detailed. In addition to card meanings and correspondences, there are meditative exercises to help one form a personal connection to tarot, and practical exercises to help one with tough decisions or issues. If you are interested in things like astrology and crystals, the book has guidance for you, but a more skeptical practitioner might want to focus on exercises like meditations and suggested art exercises.

It’s fascinating to return to this and redo some of the exercises I did fifteen years ago. I’m still the hermit. Not a surprise. That first time around, I didn’t fill out the data for my Hidden Factor/Shadow/Teacher card, and now I’m ready to do so. Time to return to the exercises I didn’t get to before!